In the first part of this series I told how I go about finding partners on the internet. Although this is not always easy, it turned out that all my partners are trustworthy, hardworking and solid. And I have never seen or even talked to them. I contacted them only via chat or mail; no voice, video or facetime.

How is this possible? I am quite convinced this has a lot to do with taking the time to learning what makes them tick. It seems that everyone on the web is in a rush which is quite a bad thing. As I said in one of my previous posts; I believe you need 3 years to get a business anywhere. Why then all the hurry?

In forums like DigitalPoint, you can find many examples of people that are in a real hurry. It actually seems like everyone there is in a real hurry. For me that is almost painful to see. Most of them will never make a dime because of that.

You need to plan; carefully go from one phase to another and work up until you have something solid you can put your name under. Those kind of things don’t get there overnight. They take time to build and you need to respect that fact.

This goes for partners as well; most people are very paranoid, they don’t trust others and they demand contracts, they demand that the partners live close by and so on. All this is because they are not patient and they don’t really talk to people, they just ‘omg kk thnx’-chat with everyone and only read the last line of mails and chat. That’ll get you scammed, I’m sure.

When we were running our datingsite, the best advice we could give people was to take the time to mail with other people. Take two weeks or more. Why the hurry? You’ll be wasting time anyway if it turns out to be nothing and with mails you actually know it faster than in person. You’ll know how impatient someone is, how really interested someone is, how much time he/she really wants to invest in you (or do they have many others in line?) and so on.

The same applies here; I don’t jump in with any partner; I talk to them for a long time. Let them wait for results. Sweat them or simply ignore them a bit; the ones that keep coming back, keep being energetic, the ones that are willing to put effort into a project even though sometimes you don’t feel like it; those are the ones you want; they won’t scam you.

Psychologists wrote thick volumes about it, but there are many ways of testing loyalty; you only need to do a few subtle tests; a scammer really cannot be bothered and will quickly move to his next victim.

I guess there will be a part three